Letting Go

Releasing Expectations

“Possessing control” of your life and all it’s concerns feels safe. Like it comes with its own safety net, guaranteed to protect you from any falls or mishaps. Doesn’t it?

Feels pretty personal.


Somehow, comforting in your mind and spirit.

It gives one a sense of security.

A feeling of well-being and the tangible emotional feeling that all is well and right.

So, letting go of that control and the expectations you have of the situation can be a little scary.

Well…. A LOT scary.

The truth is, it feels so helpless in this state.

Exhausted beyond in your mind and your questions.

Oh, the questions!!

The doubts. The searching.

You must let go.

It has to be done.

But only if you are willing to move forward.

And ready to lay down your troubles.

Your grief.

And all the package-deal worries that come with it.

If you are being honest here, you want what you want.

It can’t get any plainer than that.

And Jesus knows that. So, you take it to Him, with every last shameful or heart-bleeding detail.

Seek His kingdom first.

And all the puzzle pieces will fall into place, as His plan is revealed and unfolded somewhere along the way.

It may take years and years down the road.

Or, perhaps, you will only see it the other side of Heaven.

Putting a little of our feelings out there is somehow freeing though.

Finding someone you can trust and share your feelings with and help take your burdens to the Lord is a precious gift not taken lightly.

I promise-SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE-is facing the same struggles or even worse than you are.

First of all, just know you are a wonderful person. A good wife/husband/parent who loves your children/ grandchildren.

You want the very best for them. You may not agree with everything going on in their lives, but the evidence is obvious.

You love them unconditionally, with all your heart.

In the midst of their mistakes, you don’t stop loving them. But that love has to be TOUGH at times.

In the words of a friend recently, we have to stay down on our knees for them.

There is no hurt any worse than the pain or wound caused from your child’s own independence.

Sometimes they make the best decisions, and your heart swells with love and godly pride for them. Then, there are times, you are grieved to the point of despair with the choices made.

You even question yourself. Where did I go wrong? If I had just done things this way or that, maybe things would have been different.

The problem must be you. So you look deep within. After a lot of soul-searching, you discover, there are things in this life which cannot be helped.

You did what you could.

Herein lies a BIG truth.

And the rest lies with Jesus.

Joseph was sold into slavery by his own brothers. His own flesh and blood! Sure, he had a loving father, who (it seemed) had made a few mistakes along the way.

From all looks of it, according to the scriptures, the brothers must have felt favoritism from their father towards their baby brother.

Not to mention what happened when Joseph trusted them enough to share the dream God had given him, showing they would all bow before him someday.

All of this played a factor in the jealousy and anger radiating from the other siblings.

Have you ever seen one parent who has never made any bobbles along the way or was so perfect they were right in line, in right standing—toe to toe—with Jesus Himself?

It’s funny you should say that, because neither have I.

There is none perfect, no, not one! But Jesus Christ!

Some situations and actions in this life can be confused with favoritism.

Every child is different. Have different personalities.

You cannot discipline each child the same. No matter how much you wished it worked that way. Some things that work for one, will not work at all on the other.

A person who has born more than one child who is as different as daylight and dark could only understand and relate to this.

Add in the complications from blended families and the problems that come with it, and you can sometimes have a recipe for inevitable misunderstandings and disasters from without and from within.

For someone looking from the outside in, the situation may appear totally different from the actual reality of the truth.

What if Jacob, honestly had treated them all the same? All his children.

What if God had spoken to him specifically to make a coat of many colors just for Joseph, for a reason?

After all, God spoke to Hosea to love and marry a prostitute, didn’t He? Which is proof, His ways are most definitely higher than our ways.

The fact is, God knows exactly what He’s doing.

Even when the story plot looks absolutely crazy! He is writing every chapter of your life. And you know what?

Your story is not finished yet.

If there is anything I have learned in my walk with God, God’s ways are beyond my small way of thinking. After all, He is a great big God!

His ways are not my (fleshly) ways. I am human. He is deity!

His plans may look like it was out of hate or to destroy, but at the end of the story, you will find it was for good!

Always, ALWAYS for the good! 🙌🏼

It was God who brought Joseph to the pit, not his brothers.

Let that one sink in for a bit!

God had—HAS—-a plan all along!

It is for the saving of souls.

No matter what, it’s all about souls with our Father. He must do what is good for His children, no matter how strange the scenario looks.

“But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good…” ~Genesis‬ ‭50‬:‭20‬ ‭

You know the rest of the story. Joseph’s dream came to pass.

“And his brethren also went and fell down before his face; and they said, Behold, we be thy servants.”
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭50‬:‭18‬ ‭

*Special scripture credits here to my brother and friend in Christ. Thanks for allowing God to use you in sharing them. They went right along with this post I’d been writing on! Don’t you love God inspired moments like these?🙌🏼

With that being said, you are to listen to God, not man.

When God shows you something, do it with much prayer. In some cases, with fasting and prayer, making sure you are in the perfect Will of God.

Will you receive automatic support and understanding from your peers?

You already know the answer to that.

Not everyone is in the same ring with you or wearing the exact pair of tights.

And honestly, out of love, you pray they never have to.

God is enough.

He is your safety net.

He will catch you when you fall.

Are you ready to trust Him yet with your story?

Are you ready to take a free fall tumble from the trapeze of worry you’ve been swinging from?

Or the tight walk of control you are so carefully walking?

Don’t think.
Don’t try to hold on to anything.
Just close your eyes and let it happen.
Fall into the arms of Jesus.
He will catch you and no harm will come to you or yours.


He is positively, absolutely, unbelievably right there in that 3 ring circus with you!

And the Hand who is holding you.

The safety net shielding you from the fall.

Oh what peace we often forfeit, oh, what needless pain we bear. All because we do not carry, every thing to Him in prayer.

Prayer– Jesus, stay our minds and calm our fears. When our worries and hurts threaten to cause us a fall, remind us You are always there protecting. You want the best for our families. Help us to see it and believe it. Let Your peace and joy overflow in our homes and our spirits. We ask all these things in Your precious name, Jesus. Amen.


  1. Wow Renee – this post was truly inspired and really like how you let the post flow – with content and change of font size – just enough change to help flow and not make things dizzy (if that makes sense)
    And the many themes you expounded on from control to favoritism and all that

    And I really loved your point about how God allowed Joseph to be sold and He knew how things would work out!
    Just last week I was thinking about when Joseph was in jail and how tough that was! It made my situation feel so much more manageable
    Anyhow / your continuous reminders about how GOD IS ALWAYS IN CONTROL is very grounding

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    • I always appreciate your feedback and thoughts, Yvette! Thank you for your honesty. I know it gets a little overwhelming for me when I try to read a post with long paragraphs and everything blending into a melting pot, if you will. It’s my hopes to make my posts easy and simple to read—thus writing from the heart—without someone having to look up every single word to grasp my meaning. We are way too busy for that these days. So, I try to keep my words plain, even though I can write fancier, if that makes any sense at all lol.
      This subject has been on my heart, but I just didn’t have the words to finish until some encouragement came from a friend, who shared the scriptures with me. And it all fell into place, as it should have.
      At times, we have all felt like Joseph in that prison. It must have been very hard! What an inspiration to us all. It gives us hope that we can make it in our own prison cells. And to be honest, we all need those reminders God is always in control, even the writer. I know I do! Thanks so much for stopping in and sharing with me! 💜🤗


    • V, thank you so much for your kind words! I needed them! If we always wait on God, He will renew our strength and anything else that concerns us. He will send His Word and heal us! His timing is BEST! I don’t want to ever take that for granted, but I know I’m human and have at times. I’m so thankful for God’s grace! 🙌🏼 And I thank my God for my friends! You, especially! 💜🙌🏼

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  2. Amen! Many people feel that “letting go” means living without a safety net. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Renee, thanks for opening up anyone’s eyes to this everlasting grace found in the Resurrection of our Savior. His peace and understanding opens our hearts to trust when letting go.

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    • Amen! Exactly, Richard. Letting go is trusting and acknowledging Jesus is our safety net. And realizing everything that happens has a positive purpose for the future, plans to prosper and not harm. Thank you and welcome!


  3. Giiiiirl!!! Sooooo good! I love your heart! Letting go, can be so hard. But He sees the end from the beginning. No matter what He works ALL things out for our good!

    A particular area for me has been extremely hard but I’m loosing my grip. I’ll get there. God bless you sweetie. Praying for you. Big hugs💗🙏🤗

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    • We are all going to get there one of these days! He’s still working on us, and that’s a good thing! 🙌🏼 Yes, He works it all out to the good! Thanks for the prayers and will be doing the same for you! Bear hugs back to ya!🤗🙌🏼💜

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  4. Good timely words, God has a way like that!!
    Our family is doing a one year Bible reading plan and just read through Joseph and his brother’s story last night. God has a perfect and unique plan in every story He’s writing, there’s no plot twist that takes Him by surprise. We’re blessed to have such an Author creating our stories.

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